“Love at first sight” happens more to men than women. Why? In a relationship, usually, women are slower to be excited. That is because women are not as visual or as physical as men. That doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate a good appearance. Just good looks may not excite them quickly. Women need more than looks. They need to feel secure, which many men understand.
However, men’s understanding of women’s security is mainly in finance. Men are providers. They know women need financial security. So if a man doesn’t have a stable income, he doesn’t have enough confidence to commit to a woman. However, men’s understanding is limited because, in modern times, financial security is not as important to women as in old times.
Many women have their careers, stable job, or successful businesses. They can maintain their financial independence. It doesn’t make much difference to them whether the men they are dealing with are rich or not. But for most women, mental and emotional security is far more critical. What is mental security for women? Mental security is when a challenge happens, a woman knows that her man will support her, be with her, providing good suggestions, or advise to her. She has faith in her man for his ability and wisdom.
In our society, many smart and confident men can satisfy women’s mental security. They don’t have to be rich, or successful, nor handsome, but they need to have a positive attitude, wisdom, and a sense of confidence.
For these men, there will never be a lack of gorgeous women by their side. Then what is the emotional security looking for by women? We all know that women drove by emotion. The emotion dominates their logic, judgment, and decisions. In a relationship, women often judge and explain many things said and done by men with emotion. For instance, if a man compliments a woman, it can be interpreted as romantic (feeling). If a man keeps ringing, asking the woman out, we can regard that he feels love with her (emotion). There is a saying:” women wear their feelings on their sleeve.” Many men know that, so they play that well with women.
The emotional satisfaction or securities a woman needs are in two aspects: 1. He cares about me; 2. He is loyal to me. There are many things for women to feel the care by their men. For instance: he can spend time to listen to her, giving her his undivided attention; or he can offer some physical service, like fixing her car, her house, Etc; or he can ring or send text messages to check whether she is okay; or he can take her out, buy flowers and gifts, Etc.
Women love all those things because these actions indicate how much their men care about them, from which they feel emotional security. Of course, being loyal is essential, too. Women are much more sensitive than men in this regard. They will watch and listen to their men when they describe other females or talk to other females in public places, social functions, Etc.
Men’s loyalty is women’s security. So we can see the protection as mentioned above will not obtain through one or two meetings. Usually, it takes quite a long time. That’s why women do not get excited on the first or second date. “Love at first sight” happens far more often to men than to women.
However, by saying that, many women love fairy-tale love stories. So “love at first sight” also happens to women. They can be attracted to men on a first date. But there is a fundamental difference between men and women when they experience the “love at first sight” romance.
For men, often it is visual, sexual, without emotional attachment. Therefore it can go quickly. While for women, “the love at first sight” is the emotion, it is the love. There is emotional attachment. Unfortunately, once the feeling dominates the mind, ordinary judgment stops working well, resulting in many women suffering from disappointment and hurt.
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