Many people never believe there is such a thing as “Love at first sight.” They don’t even think there is true love in real life. However, doubts on the one hand, but on the other hand, they still hope that one day they might come across true love at first sight. Anyhow, human nature sometimes can be so paradoxical. I used to have a male client. He was so confident about his judgment over photos. He said that if I like her looks in the picture, she would be my wife. His “love at first sight” didn’t even need to meet that person. It could happen just by looking at a photo. He selected three images. I told him that if you were so confident about your judgment, you would simultaneously marry three people. He said he would choose one among the three. In the end, he met all three women. None of them would meet him the second time.

Why would people believe that lifetime happiness can rely on one sighting or a couple of meetings? Why even doubt it? Would people still hold the hope that it may happen in their life? I think the description of love stories in movies or books needs to take responsibility for this attitude. Love describes as so like a fairy story, so passionate and so unbelievable in those love stories. A man and a woman can be locked into each other’s eye contact at a bus station and then fall in love. The wealthy boss would madly fall in love with his humble secretary once she walks into his office. The millionaire master discovered himself in deep love with his servant just by bumping into each other in the corridor.

 I won’t say these stories never happened in real life. But I believe it won’t happen very often. Even if it happened, I don’t know how many lasted happily ever after. The picture of a fairy story is not only sweet but is also easy to obtain. It can be happy instantly after two people meet. It is like a double edge sword, giving hope and creating false expectations. People like a “love at first sight” experience because of the fear of failure and hurt. They don’t want people to reject them, and they hate people who break their hearts. The love story in movies and books have skipped the process of steps in the relationship. It jumps straight to the result, which is what people hope to have.

The outcome of love is sweet, but the process can be complicated, challenging, and hurtful. People can waste their time and emotion in a relationship without any development or good work. To some people, the hurt from a relationship is unbearable. They can take many businesses, finance, and even health challenges but can’t deal well with the pain from a relationship. Often, we heard stories about emotionally related murder, suicide. Many people want the result of love but don’t like the process. That’s why the concept of “love at first sight” suits them and gives them hope. “love at first sight” rarely happens in real life. Even it happens, it doesn’t guarantee long-term happiness. The description of “love at first sight” takes away the fun, the challenge when two people are trying to know each other and build a solid, loving, caring relationship. So, I can’t say “love at first sight” is a good beginning of a relationship.